It is a privilege to interact with more mature people everyday. Some of them I get to talk on the phone, or people who just walk in the store to buy a thing or two, pastors and counselors in CCF, and also my parents. One thing that struck me is that people can grow into just generally two kinds – one who thinks and demand to be respected, and the other one is the person just because of who they are makes you naturally respect them. I want to be the later.
There is this old girl from the association my dad belongs to, she is so disrespectful on the phone. She just says “Hey,”, no please, no can I talk to, no anything. She is an example of a person with no hope, no wish in life, and just doing her tasks. She does not respect people she is calling and thus, I doubt if other people also respects her.
My dad always asks me to join these organizations, but why join an organization of disrespectful, proud, rich, old guys? Do I want to be like them? Of course not!
Whenever I read the book Rich Dad, Poor Dad, I can clearly identify my dad as the poor dad. He has the poor mentality. He thinks he is old, he does not want to work, he wants to sit down, shout, curse, and fight with people. But… just like Poor Dad in the book, he thinks the way to go is saving money, and living below ones means. It is laziness actually that pulls him down. My dad always demands respect from people, but even our customers tell him that he needs to respect himself first. It is pathetic. One day, he smoked his cigarette inside our office where there is a big no smoking sign, I closed the door hurriedly and unintentionally made a loud noise. My dad felt he was disrespected, but actually, he disrespected everyone in our store by smoking inside. How can someone demand respect when he does not respect the right of other people?
How we handle life, how we live, and not how much money we have in the bank will determine whether or not people will look up to us, and respect us. You cannot demand respect from people. Respect is a complicated thing. As we grow old, we need to grow more and more respectful so other people will respect us as well. Grow to be more considerate, more understanding, more humble, more loving. I am failing in many of these, but I hope that I will be better.